What Runners Secretly Hope Their Chasers Understand

Ever wonder what’s really going on in your runner’s head?

Being part of the twin flame journey means facing some of the deepest questions about love, separation, and connection. Sometimes, it makes us question everything.

If you’re the chaser, you’ve probably replayed every conversation, every silence, hoping for a sign. And if you’re the runner… well, you know how hard it is to put your truth into words.

You’re not alone. We’re all in this together, navigating the wild ups and downs of twin flame love. So today, let’s do something different: let’s actually listen to what the runners have to say.

We’ve gathered real confessions from our own community. As you read, remember these voices could be your twin’s, or even your own. Let’s hold space for each other and get real about what’s on the other side of the runner/chaser dynamic.

“I Think About You More Than You’ll Ever Know“

“As a runner, I think about my chaser 24/7. I dream about them daily, and get sad when I sleep and don’t see them in my dreams. It’s the only place where I can feel them near me while we’re in a separation. And always question if the chaser ever feels the same… How the chaser thinks of me… would the chaser accept my dark side because no one ever accepted that in my life.” – Yourmoon123

Let’s be honest: we’ve all wondered if our twin is thinking about us as much as we think about them.

Here’s the truth runners are often just as obsessed, just as vulnerable. The silence isn’t a lack of caring. It’s usually fear.

Fear of rejection, fear of not being accepted for who we really are.

Where it gets weird is how this manifests. How awakened they are on the 3D will change how they respond to the journey.

“Unconditional Love Goes Both Ways“

“I love my runner without conditions. Chances are your chaser is no different.” – Sea-Remove2534

It’s easy to believe love is one-sided when you’re the one waiting.

But unconditional love isn’t just for chasers. Runners feel it too, even if they don’t (or can’t) show it in obvious ways. We’re all learning how to love ourselves and each other without strings attached.

“I Don’t Want to Lose You“

“I pull away not because I don’t care, but because the intensity is overwhelming. I need space to breathe, to find clarity, but I don’t want to lose you.”

Possibly one of the biggest reasons we see runners creating space isn’t because they’re disconnecting or disinterested. Because they’re overwhelmed.

Space doesn’t always mean the end. It often means they’re making room to understand what they’re feeling.

Let’s Talk About the Push and Pull

Separation hurts. But it’s not just about one person chasing and the other running.

We’ve seen it over and over both twins are often terrified. The chaser fears loss; the runner fears being “too much” or “not enough.”

This push and pull? It’s growth in disguise. If you’re feeling stuck, know that both sides are working through fears. That’s how we all get stronger.

“Your Chaser’s Greatest Fear“

“You are loved, immensely. But due to the push/pull that can happen, there can be a great deal of fear around receiving the one thing we want the most, which is you. Fear of doing or saying the wrong thing to send you pulling away, wanting to confess our love without overwhelming you, wanting to shield you from any pain or negative experiences even if it’s what you need to grow.” – ampa_rhey

Chasers, you’re not the only ones feeling anxious. We actually hear this more often than you might think.

Runners walk on eggshells sometimes. Afraid of ruining something precious. The intensity of a twin flame bond means every word, every action feels magnified.

Why Runners Pull Away (It’s Not What You Think)

Most runners aren’t running from their twin. They’re running toward themselves.

We’ve talked to so many in the community who say they’re terrified of “messing it up” or bringing old wounds into the connection. We’re big proponents of chasers working on speeding up reunion, but doing so means also understanding how to help them.

Not just sitting around wishing

If you’re a chaser, this isn’t your fault. If you’re a runner, you’re not broken.

We’re all just trying to become the version of ourselves that can truly love and be loved.

“My Runner is Always On My Mind“

“My runner is on my mind consistently every single day from the moment I step foot back home from work.” – rgardner1988

Sound familiar?

This connection doesn’t switch off when we’re separated. It’s a constant hum in the background, sometimes comforting, sometimes overwhelming. It’s the same for both runner and chaser.

We’re all living with that same steady awareness.

“I’m Afraid My Healing Isn’t Complete”

“Sometimes I worry that if we reunite now, my unhealed trauma will sabotage everything we’ve worked for. I’m not running from you, I’m running toward becoming the person who can fully receive your love.”

Let’s get real: healing is messy.

It might be that your runner is doing the work and you just don’t see it (often the case), but they’re just not there yet.

Many runners step back, not because they don’t want reunion, but because they want to get it right.

If you’re feeling frustrated or left behind, remember that sometimes the most loving thing we can do is heal, even if that means being apart for a while.

“The Pressure Is Overwhelming“

“Everyone in the spiritual community tells me I’m supposed to be ‘awakened’ and ‘evolved’ because I’m the runner. But honestly, I’m just trying to make sense of these intense feelings while managing my everyday life. The twin flame label sometimes feels like too much to live up to.”

Part of the problem with giving things labels is that sometimes you get expectations placed on you that really slow things down more than help.

There’s no rulebook. No timeline. Just your own journey, unfolding at its own pace (though you can get some insight into your journey).

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“I See Our Future Together“

“In my quietest moments, I allow myself to imagine our life together. I see us building something beautiful, healing together, growing together. I’m not running because I don’t want that future, I’m running because I want it to be perfect when it happens.”

A lot of runners have this secret hope: that someday, when you’re both ready, it’ll all finally make sense.

“I’m Not as Cold as I Seem“

“I know I come off distant or detached, but inside, I’m feeling everything sometimes too much.”