So you’re separated from your twin flame and trying to figure out if they have any idea how connected you are?
The twin flame runner is the less spiritually aware of the two of you. This doesn’t mean that they’re not your mirror soul or that you can’t reach union. It just means they have some work to do. And since you are the same soul, it means you both have some work to do.
Last week we wrote about understanding how the twin flame runner feels (and how to help them get through separation). This matters. It’s useful to be able to spot these signs, but more important, that you understand why it’s happening.
Remember! Signs on the twin flame journey are guidelines and not hard-set rules. Your journey is so incredibly unique, and you should always be watching for external signs like twin flame numbers (and your intuition, of course) to help guide you.
Signs Your Twin Flame Isn’t Aware (Yet)
- Constant Searching: Your twin flame seems to constantly search for something they can’t put their finger on. They might feel like they’re missing something in their life but won’t know what it is. This can make them restless and even lash out, but they’re rarely sure why so they’ll blame it on something that fits in with their level of spiritual understanding.
- Hesitation Around You: If your twin flame isn’t aware of the connection, they might be extremely hesitant around you. They might not trust the feelings they have for you or might be worried that being in a relationship with you will cause more harm than good.
- Interest in Casual Relationships: If your twin flame is only interested in casual relationships, it could mean that they are not aware of the connection yet. They know something is between you but just frame it in a way they understand relationships in the 3D.
- Disbelief in the Connection: This one should be clear, but a litmus test we’ve talked about before. If you’ve told your twin flame about the connection and they didn’t believe it, it’s a clear sign that they are not aware of the spiritual side of the connection yet.
- Lack of Emotional Intensity: Twin flames usually experience intense emotions towards each other. If your twin flame doesn’t show this level of emotional intensity, there’s something holding them back, and it’s likely they’re not aware of it.
- Avoidance of Deep Conversations: If your twin flame avoids deep or spiritual conversations, they’re potentially experiencing soul shock and are not ready for the level of connection they experience with you.
- Inability to Recognize Synchronicities: Twin flames often experience synchronicities. If your twin flame doesn’t notice or dismisses these synchronicities, they might not be aware of the connection.
- Lack of Interest in Self-Improvement: Twin flames often inspire each other to become better versions of themselves. If your twin flame shows no interest in self-improvement, they’re probably still resisting. Be careful with this one, as self-improvement doesn’t always look the same from the outside.
- Fear of Intimacy: If your twin flame shows a fear of intimacy or vulnerability, they might not be aware of the spiritual connection between you two.
- Lack of Empathy: Twin flames often have a deep sense of empathy for each other. This doesn’t always manifest the way we’d like, but when the chips are down, they’re there for you. If not, they’re putting up roadblocks. They’re not trying to hurt you if they do this; it’s likely a subconscious act of self-defense for a level of energy they don’t understand.
- Ignoring the Connection: If your twin flame ignores or dismisses the obvious signs that you get on, they’re either unaware or actively trying to avoid what they feel for some reason. It might be external pressure, or they’re simply not ready yet.
- Lack of Spiritual Awareness: If your twin flame lacks spiritual awareness in general, they might not be aware of the spiritual connection between you two. They’re still framing relationships in a way that makes sense to them.
What to Do When Your Twin Flame is Blind to the Connection
The twin flame path begins long before either of you ever heard the term ‘twin flame’. So just because they’re not aware of the connection yet, doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can do about it.
You’re still connected on the higher levels, and you can use this.
Any work you do will be reflected by them. It won’t always look the same or manifest into an immediate union, but if you’re the spiritually awakened one, you’re very much at the steering wheel.

- Patience and Understanding: It’s important to understand that awakening to the twin flame connection is a deeply personal and spiritual journey. It’s not something that can be forced or rushed by anger. You need to find the line between being patient with your runner and furthering your own spiritual journey.
- Communication: If communication in the 3D is an option for you, always keep that open. This doesn’t mean stalking their social media and messaging them 10 times a day, but letting them know the option is there. If you’re not communicating in the 3D, you can always use twin flame telepathy.
- Self-Improvement: While you’re waiting for your twin flame to awaken to the connection, focus on your own personal and spiritual growth. This is going to take many different forms for everyone and is much easier said than done, but it is the way to speed up union.
- Energy Work: If a blockage between you and your twin keeps them from accepting the connection between you, energy work might be your way forward. For some, this could be reiki and crystal healing, for others it might be meditation and astral projection. Whether you join our sessions or find your own keep this work consistent.
- Trust in Divine Timing: Remember that everything happens in divine timing. It might be frustrating to wait for your twin flame to awaken to the connection, but trust that it will happen when the time is right. Trying to rush it and make it happen before you’re both ready will only be painful for the two of you.
- Stay Positive: It’s easy to become discouraged if your twin flame doesn’t recognize the connection, but try to stay positive. Remind yourself that your twin flame’s soul is aware of the connection, even if they aren’t consciously aware of it yet.
- Support and Love: Show your twin flame unconditional love and support. This will not only help them feel safe and loved, but it can also help them awaken to the spiritual connection between you.
- Respect Their Journey: Everyone’s spiritual journey is unique and personal. Respect your twin flame’s journey and understand that they may need to go through certain experiences or lessons before they can awaken to the twin flame connection.