Honest Confessions from Twin Flame Runners (That Might Surprise You)

 I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again (probably more than I’d like to): it’s important to know how twin flame runners really feel. We need to dispel this idea that it’s easy for them or that they don’t feel the journey at all.

What the twin flame runners wish their chasers knew (but are scared to admit).

Let’s be honest. When our twin flame runs, it hurts. Kind of like going through childbirth and getting kicked in the nuts at the same time. While you’re sitting on a keg of dynamite.

We often think they’re off, happily living their lives, completely unaffected, while we’re stuck longing. But what if that’s not really the case? What if runners are struggling just as much but are afraid to admit it?

Today, we’re diving into some powerful truths straight from fellow twin flames who’ve experienced the runner side. Their words show that the runner’s journey isn’t what we usually imagine.

“I Think About My Chaser 24/7”

“As a runner, I think about my chaser 24/7… I dream about them daily, and get sad when I sleep and don’t see them in my dreams. It’s the only place where I can feel them near me while we’re in a separation. And always think about if the chaser ever feels the same… How the chaser thinks of me… would the chaser accept my dark side because no one ever accepted that in my life, people always think of me as the perfect person, the awakened person, the all-knowing person who can never do mistakes, and sometimes I feel like I can’t feel my humanity, I wanna be a normal human being, who’s allowed to feel angry, do mistakes, and I think about if my chaser can handle that part of me. I wanna let my guard down so bad, I wanna show the love I hold inside me towards my chaser, I wanna be their everything, they’re my one and only.” – Yourmoon123

This is a fairly common trend we’re going to see here. They’re not indifferent, and they’re all connected to the chaser (though that can manifest differently in the 3D).

They can long to be seen and accepted for who they really are.

“I Thought I Had to Fix Everything First”

“I kept thinking I had to be healed, whole, and perfect before I could come back. I didn’t want you to see the mess I still carry.”

Perfectionism is a common mask for pain, and oh boy, are the runners a fan of masks.

Many runners convince themselves they must become this “ideal version” of themselves before reunion is even possible. They don’t realize that love (real love) isn’t waiting on perfection.

It’s found in showing up anyway. But we can’t just reason their pain and fear away.

“I Didn’t Leave Because I Stopped Loving You”

“I left because the love was too strong, not too weak.”

And, of course, we have soul shock.

We often assume someone walks away because their love wasn’t deep enough. But for twin flames, it’s usually the opposite. The intensity can be so overwhelming that it short-circuits the nervous system.

The strength of the connection touches them in places they’re not ready to heal (yet). It doesn’t fit into their understanding and frame of the world.

“I Check On You From Afar”

“I still look at your socials. I still read the messages I never replied to. I still care — I just don’t know how to show it.”

This one can be very different from couple to couple, but we’ve seen plenty of stories of the runner even making fake accounts to watch posts on Instagram.

They might not reach out, but they haven’t stopped caring. Their distance is not absence; it’s a form of self-protection as they work through their own part of the journey.

Runners aren’t running from love. They very often can’t even explain why they’re running to themselves.

They’re running from vulnerability. The intensity of the twin flame connection can be overwhelming, especially if they’ve never felt fully accepted before. Understanding this helps us see their actions are rarely about rejection. It’s their own fears playing out.

“The Hardest Part is Pretending”

“The hardest part isn’t being apart it’s pretending I’m okay without you.”

There’s that mask again.

How To Help the Runner

Well, the first step is understanding their side of the journey.

This is a good start.

Understand them, then understand how to speed up your journey.

Many twin flame runners are doing the hardest work of their lives in silence. There are ways we can help them, but just remember they’re fighting battles you might never see. But they’re fighting for love, not against it.

And remember, those roles are never set in stone.

The runner/chaser dynamic switches back and forth all the time. Many of us have experienced being both the runner and the chaser at different times. Recognizing this fluidity helps us break free from labels and focus on growing individually, which ultimately brings us closer together.

“I Run Because I’m Terrified of Losing You”

“I distance myself because if I get too close, I’m afraid I’ll lose you for good. It’s easier to run than face that risk.”

Fear of loss can ironically cause the runner to create distance.

“Waiting for the Right Moment”

“I’m not running forever, just until I’m ready. Deep down, I know our moment will come.”

Trusting in divine timing can help us all find patience and peace.

Whatever part you’re playing right now (runner or chaser), we’re all navigating similar fears, hopes, and journeys. Your twin flame is likely thinking of you more than you realize. Keep loving yourself and trusting in spirit.