Are any twin flames actually happy with someone else? Can they live life with a soulmate or false twin flame?
We get variations of this question all the time, so I thought we’d tackle it in one place.
First of all, make sure you know the difference between twin flames vs soulmates. The terminology gets mixed up constantly, and this creates no end of problems.
And as a huge disclaimer right away: I’m sure there are people who are ‘happy’ with a soulmate or a ‘normal’ relationship. Absolutely. I don’t think everyone has a twin flame, and I don’t think everyone is destined to reach union in this lifetime.
That said.
The bond between Twin Flames is profound, and when they meet, it’s two halves of a whole finally uniting. Even if they end up with other people, this piece of them always seems to yearn for their Twin Flame.
I don’t think that means they’re doing something wrong or can’t be happy with someone else, but there’s still something missing.
Now, I can tell you from experience life takes on a new hue after you’ve encountered your Twin Flame. It’s as if the world pivots on its axis, and you start to see yourself (and your life) in a different light.
Beliefs here will always vary, so I thought I’d share some opinions from our readers on each side. We’ve also touched on this when we looked at twin flames cheating and how difficult it gets when we try to apply ‘normal’ terms to such a complex connection.
No, They’ll Never Be Happy Without their Twin Flame
I will say, this is probably the most common belief.
Most believe twin flames can’t be truly happy when they’re apart.
They might seem happy, but it’s more of a performance. They’re trying to convince themselves that they can transfer their deep feelings for you onto someone else. It’s a way to avoid the intensity of the twin flame journey, to maintain control over their emotions. But let’s be real, you can’t control feelings that profound. Eventually, the mask slips. Ignoring their true feelings and love for their Twin Flame is like trying to hold back a tidal wave.
It’s a process, and it takes time. They need to understand their actions and learn from them. Meanwhile, as the chaser, you’re growing, healing, and learning to let go. And trust me, letting go is a powerful act. It allows your Twin Flame to see what they’re missing and allows them to grow and heal too.
Mike
For some, this is certainly the case.
Especially for twin flame runners who are less spiritually aware. It’s not unusual for a twin flame to try to navigate their deep, intense feelings by seeking solace in other relationships. Ones that ‘make more sense’ in how they understand the world.
This happiness is usually temporary. Whether they’re conscious of it or not, they slowly become aware that something with this other relationship is… wrong.
We often talk about false twin flames ‘getting in the way’ when you’re in separation. Just remember that they’re in your journey to serve a purpose.
It might be that you (or your twin flame) have something to learn before you’re both ready to move forward together. Another person might be exactly the trigger that the learning process needs.
Maybe They Can Be Happy With a Soulmate
Others believe that, in the short term, it’s possible to be happy with a soulmate.
We are the creators of our happiness within the confines of our circumstances. Happiness is something we need to strive for in order to manifest it, so to speak. But oftentimes when we try to reach an ideal, we make our happiness contingent upon that ideal. Expectations can get in the way.
Having known the twin soul intimately in the physical makes it a bit hard for life with other soul connections afterward. So many of us have been there and I know many will relate. Being with the twin in the physical can be a very intense experience on so many levels. But, sadly, sometimes it is not in the cards for some of us. Sometimes we are called to clear energy through karmic relationships instead. Or spend some time, sometimes a whole lifetime with a soulmate instead. From experience, if we try to feel the very same things we felt with our twin while navigating these other relationships, we likely will find disappointment. These relationships are simply different and we need to learn to approach them as such, keeping in mind that these people we both with have things to teach us. To remain open minded as possible.
It was a hard life lesson for me because I have been with my twin soul a long time ago prior to him passing away. Then had to navigate adulthood with other soul connections, some hard, some toxic, a few good; all of them carrying lessons for the growth of my soul — well, our shared soul; my twin and me.
My life partner is a soulmate. And it has been hard to acceptin times past, having known my twin in this way. But, as time went on, with enough care and devotion in this partnership, I have learned that joy can be found in these relationships — as long as I do not expect these other soul connections to be who they are not. A soulmate is not a twin soul. It will never be a twin soul. But a nice, caring soulmate can bring us so much in the absence of the twin. Soulmates are beautiful soul connections too and should not be overlooked.
Of course that is my experience. Others may have different stories to tell. I know some soulmates can be very close and nurture deep bonds despite vibrating at different frequencies. What I have come to understand on my walk is that the Universe does not ask us to love people in ways we cannot. That the heart is big enough to love everyone in our lives in every ways needed per the life contracts. Partnership is a broad term, and one that can be explored outside of the constraints and expectations of 3D as well.
If you are meant to be with someone else for a while or for life, simply trust that you will find your way. And aim at making the best of it as long as things are healthy between you.
Zoe
I love the perspective here.
We are indeed the architects of our happiness, and it’s important to remember that happiness isn’t a destination, but a journey. Sometimes, we get so caught up in chasing union, that we forget to relish the journey and appreciate what we have right now.
It’s so incredibly rare to be on this journey. To have this opportunity.
Many of us in the Twin Flame community have had to confront this reality. The intensity of twin flames can be overwhelming, leaving every other connection feeling somewhat lesser.
But, the Universe, in its infinite wisdom, has a way of teaching us. Sometimes, it calls us to clear energy through karmic relationships or to find companionship with a soulmate. Each of these relationships, different as they might be from our Twin Flame connection, carries valuable lessons and opportunities for growth.
Every soul connection is unique and should be appreciated for what it is. They can’t replace your twin flame, but they can certainly bring their distinct joy and lessons into your life.
Whether as a temporary measure before union, or as a connection in this lifetime while you prepare to meet your twin again.
Remember, this is just one person’s experience; yours might differ. That’s the beauty of our journeys – no two paths are exactly alike. So, navigate yours in the way that feels right to you. As long as you’re fostering healthy, nurturing connections, you’re on the right track.